Tracking Intimacy by the Stars
Girl – Sun in Aries, Moon in Gemini
Boy – Sun in Virgo, Moon in Aquarius
This couple met on June 5, 2001, with an exact Full Moon in Sagitarrius at 8:39 pm, one hour before they met; Mars Rx at 26° Sg; Mercury Rx at 29° Sg; Uranus Rx at 24° Aq (inconjunct his Jupiter since April 2001); Neptune Rx at 8° Aq (inconjunct his Ascendant since March 2001), and Pluto Rx at 13° Sag, trine his Venus in Leo, inconjunct her Venus in Taurus, and sextile her Pluto in Libra. She is a 1L, he is a writer and attorney. Lots of electricity between them during this Full Moon, of which he felt the most obvious Full Sag Moon flaming arrow was the blaze of Fire that is her sent right to his side. The following Tuesday they macked each other at the bar some more; she sported much face glitter, bouncing while she sang Material Girl, while he chose Bat Outta Hell. His plan is to get through this Summer's nutty Mars Rx without sexual intimacy with her, although he confides that he is not sure if he can hold out until late July when Mars goes Direct.
The most obvious sources of excitement can be glimpsed in each's Outer Planet contacts to the other's Venus. Such aspects are somewhat common and are shared by some famous couples such as Burt & Loni, Woody & Mia, Bobby & Whitney, Charles & Camilla, and Phil & Brynne, Angelina Jolie and Billy Bob Thorton, to name a few. From astrozine.com:
Thornton's Venus Conjunct Uranus may be the Stars' answer as to the fate of his love affair with Jolie. This aspect indicates that Thornton's approach to love is unconventional at best, and most likely very changeable. How else to explain five marriages (so far!) and the ability to disrupt his seemingly stable live-in relationship with Dern to marry Jolie? This aspect basically means Jolie had better watch out -- while she's young, beautiful and definitely has a ton to offer a man, Thornton's likely to be the kind of man that's always looking out for the next heart to conquer.
Also see Donna Cunningham's stunning series on Outer Planet-Venus contacts in 1999-2000 issues of The Mountain Astrologer for a clearer understanding of these powerful vibrations. Once we identify them in our relationships with others, as here, we begin to learn that we are karmically connected to those whom we share these interaspects with and often it is a sign to run the other way and to smartly delay the karmic interchange with this person, possibly until another lifetime. Yet many Virgos of both sexes often are completely drawn to that real craziness in their intimacies, appreciating that at least it is an honest expression of the whirlwind, rollercoaster nature of intense Love, and well expressed through balls-forward Aries Grrl energy.
So, to mack effectively with synastry, you first gots to get the digits...date & year, and place of birth or nearest big city. Time of day isn't necessary right away for a quick scan, so use twelve noon. Pull up both your charts side by side.
Then, just bust a move...
Female Sun-Mercury Conjunction trine Male Mercury (exact)
(w/Sun:) This is an excellent aspect for cooperative activities that are both stimulating and fulfilling to both partners. Each is capable of self-reflection since their questions find answers in the other. Companionship is heightened because the need for understanding enables each to listen to the other.
(w/Mercury:) The conscious intellect in the male is compatible with the ideas and thoughts of the female. The two complement each other as friendly children walking side by side, sharing ideas together. This is an excellent aspect for mutual understanding.
Female Moon sextile Male Mercury (exact)
(trine:) This aspect indicates easy communication. The female symbolically displays a passion and the male combines emotion with reason so that each partner functions in the most harmonious archetypal way. The male enjoys the mothering quality of his mate, while his logical mind provides a secure foundation for her feelings.
Male Moon opposite Female Mars (2°)
This aspect tends to bring rash or impulsive action into a relationship. The female acts out the male role. The male sees himself as the female while he unconsciously plays the role of his mother in opposition to himself. In order to win freedom from the mother influence he must create situations in which the argumentative female (played by himself) wins. The more he does this, the more he extricates himself from his past. Still, the present relationship suffers as this problem is worked out.
Male Mercury conjunct Female Saturn (2°)
The female leads the male to his lessons. She talks to him about responsibilities, burdens, and the means for attaining wisdom that will add fullness to his being. He needs to earn her respect and as a result strives to develop stature. The more flippant qualities of Mercury are impeded as she impresses the wisdom of mature consciousness on the childlike qualities she sees in her male.
Male Sun trine Female Venus (8°)
This brings a sense of ease into the relationship but can cause some laziness as each partner experiences a sense of contentment in the other. Wealth, both material and spiritual, may manifest, because the relationship is cooperatively-oriented. The male is protective and able to assume burdens; the female is pliable and able to yield to her Apollo.
Venus square Venus (3°)
Here the male feels the identification of the female and she sees another manifestation of femininity in him. On an unconscious level, he may experience a sense of failure because his efforts to relate to his partner make him appear to be trying to hard. The male must learn how to retreat if he is to keep himself from being affectionately overbearing.
Mars conjunct Mars (exact)
Here we have two individual egos pulling in the same direction. Competitiveness may exist but it can be directed toward a common goal. Thus, the female identifies with her animus in order to keep up with her male. By doing this, she loses some of her femininity in what can become a “brother-like” type of rivalry. Still, each pushes the other to do their best. Sexual expression can be difficult as each partner challenges the other without finding mutual surrender. This aspect can be frustrating or can stimulate great achievements for both individuals.
Male Venus square Female Uranus (exact)
This aspect creates a spontaneous attraction which often results in an extremely hectic relationship. The male tries to hold the female while reflecting the feminine nature he may feel she seeks, while she fights for her psychic space. As a result the relationship has the quality of holding together and splitting asunder at the same time. Insecurities on both parts may be accentuated by the erratic and inconsistent nature of this aspect. The relationship can easily take on the quality of a whirlwind blowing with no apparent purpose.
Male Venus Trine Female Neptune (3°) This aspect helps to create a mellow flow of receptivity bringing an unconscious attunement to similar frequencies in music, the arts, and all in nature that soothes the senses. The male, through the feminine or feeling part of himself, learns about his creative possibilities. At the same time, the female sees herself through him and may find a nest for all her romanticism, sentiment, and compassion. A tone of sweetness and warmth lures the male to bathe in the soothing waters of love.
Female Venus trine Male Uranus-Pluto Conjunction (6° from midpoint)
(w/Uranus:) The female is excited by the originality, inventiveness, and unique qualities of the male. She sees him as a “tradition breaker,” and in fact, her vehicle for breaking past patterns that she no longer wants. An avid interest in the arts, or the seeking of progressive comfort pervades this relationship, yet there is a note of instability here as his free mind can cause insecure feelings in his partner. There is a detached sense of aloofness in which the male preserves his unique and independent identity.
(w/Pluto:) From the dark roots of the soil a plant eventually blossoms. The male hunts in the dark to provide security for the woman he loves. The more he does, the more he transforms the base qualities within himself, until ultimately he becomes the Angel of Light for her to follow. In the process, she gives him warmth, enriching herself through his mysterious quest for understanding. When he sees her light at the end of the tunnel, he begins to touch the fruits of goodness that had always seemed beyond his reach as both begin to share a tremendous depth of feeling.
Male Venus sextile Female Pluto (exact)
(trine:) Here the warmth of the male complements the depths in his partner. She, at the bottom of a well, sees the light he offers at the threshold of consciousness. It tempts her to transform her lower nature, to climb out of the raging inferno within her to the utter simplicity of self-acceptance. Gentle transformations bring about much growth in both partners. The male realizes the power of his ability to love and the female sees love’s light at the top of the well, as they grow toward each other.
Female Jupiter square Male Saturn (2°)
The female seeks freedom, lightness and ease while the male is firmly rooted in his past. Taking on the father role, he tends to “freeze” time at some historical point in the past which was significant for him on some karmic level. He tries to continue past traditions, customs or attitudes which were socially acceptable. The more he does this, however, the more the female asserts her need for freedom. She seeks the openness of learning, growing, and wondering what is beyond each new horizon. He tries to structure the future into the karmic past.
There is a bondage involving ideas in this relationship and if both individuals are to experience growth it will be brought to light through the female. There is a teaching karma here and her learning must unfold from the historical time setting that the male creates. He may favor a particular culture, civilization, or set rules and traditions that come from his ancestry. She must loosen and dissipate these crystallized rules in order to balance the relationship in a realistic current setting.
Female Neptune square Male Uranus-Pluto Conjunction Midpoint (exact)
This aspect causes poor judgment. The female’s impressions, dreams, and illusions tend to cloud the intellect of the male. In turn, he overreacts and often misses the point. She finds it difficult to trust her intuitive self because his unpredictable excitability often disrupts her stream of consciousness. Thus, this relationship puts a strain on both partners. The male, being more impersonal than his mate, tends to feel less of the hurt that each is inadvertently inflicting on the other. Dreams go unrealized. Future expectations do not materialize. Both partners in an attempt to blame the other tend to unconsciously become isolated. A sense of incompleteness becomes the tone for the relationship.
